Idealist love

One of the biggest challenges that I have to overcome is this foolish prejudice we have of seeing love and romance as some kind of sacred, magical realm where things just fall into place, if they are meant to be. You can blame this on religion, or movies such as Titanic, The Notebook or any Hollywood chick flick. This might seem romantic and quaint, but it is really just a cover for our laziness. What will seduce a person is the effort we expend on their behalf, showing how much we care, how much they are worth. Leaving things to chance is a recipe for disaster, and reveals that we do not take love and romance very seriously. If you are just sitting and waiting around for the person to fall in your life. You are cutting yourself short. Falling in love is a matter of not of magic but of psychology. Once you understand your target's psychology, and strategize to suit it you can create the "magic."